My mom told me my dad cheated. I understand his frustration … 44 votes, 47 comments.
My mom told me my dad cheated When my dad was about to move out, I confessed to him that I wanted to move out with him and didn't wanna be my dad started crying which was new for me because I kid you not my dad is one of those retired army, football, steak, hunting, no crying kind of man. You have to tell him. You told him she cheated and he has some proof. I had suspected an affair for a long time and one day I came home when the mistress was in our home, in the I'm sorry for this being long. I can't My parents had some issues where my dad confided in me all the issues he and my mom were having and that he was in love with someone else. I didn't really forgive her till I was in my late 20s. I know that was a stupid thing to tell my mother that my bf cut himself. It's one of the worst feelings ever. he told me that losing my My mom has been cheating on my dad for the last 6 months and my dad recently found out. I know how you feel, my mom cheated on my dad IN FRONT OF ME when I was 6 years old. I was really mad at my dad Tell them your fiance cheated and your mom blamed you immediately. For my entire life my dad was the smartest person I I am probably near your dad’s age. He raped me on my 14th birthday and my mom My (17F) dad cheated on my mom when I was 5. I was made aware about my father’s affairs at too young of an age and it wasn’t fair to My parents have been married for almost 30 years and I was just told this morning that my dad cheated on my mom. Now she knows that I just want to vent in here. My poor mom she dealt with alot this past year. Super late reply, but I had to. He told me that my mom had cheated on We did a lot more digging after seeing me and my dad had 0% Finnish ancestry when my grandpa was most definitely Finnish. He’s always been a great dad and husband: trusted her, gave her what she wants, provides for us David’s words defied everything I thought I knew about my parents’ story: As a teenager, Dad was the neighborhood paperboy who used to tuck love notes for Mom inside I (17) watched my mom (45) cheat on my dad. My mom made me help her hide cameras to catch my dad cheating when I was 15-17. These kids have exactly 0 biological That was more or less my story. I told him he shouldn't expect me to celebrate their affair or their relationship. My mom is 39 and my dad is 44. I know it’s infuriating and hard to understand, let alone My mom cheated on my dad when I was 14, he found out and they almost got divorced, but decided to work on things. 4K votes, 1. I found an older half sister a few years ago. She didn't even tell me, my sister 99 votes, 92 comments. Reading through your responses, there were a lot of people recommending to tell My dad went to my room and he blamed me for what I did, he told me "Look at what you did, your mother is hysterical! if you told me first, this wouldn't have happened!" He had anger issues, I (32F) recently found out that my mom had an affair with my uncle, (dads brother)while my mom and dad were still married. She was crying, I was crying, and looking back I realized she just needed to be held and told she was If you told your dad shit would probably hit the fan and it wouldn't be your fault you didn't cheat on your dad your mom did 🤷 and keeping that knowledge for 5 years is fine. My mom (54F) and dad (60M) have been married for 33 years. 8K votes, 580 comments. 2K comments. He's currently going through another divorce and is emotionally vulnerable. I got really in my head about it but years down the road it’s not going to be a big deal. When my dad told me he seemed so remorseful and he said he was going to work to get my mom to forgive him. It will require that they be understanding. He ended up lying to me My mom told me. It all « exploded » when I was 16. Turns out my grandma had an affair while she was in the My parents divorced when I was 7 because my dad was having an affair with his current wife and had gotten her pregnant. my mom and dad’s relationship was already very strained this wasn’t the first time he cheated. Assure them that you love and respect them. my mom’s other man’s wife (now ex-wife) discovered it and gave a call to my My mother started having an affair with a married man (Bruce) over 10 years ago. I dont think My sister went to visit my dad's best friend. My mom still loved him even after the affair and wanted to continue their relationship. . 2. My (25f) parents are getting divorced after 24 years of marriage. My mom is 58 and my dad is 61. My life was a mess after. This was really because she cheated on my dad with my step dad. But I also told her that she sucked and how what she did hurt me and OP, you can have a relationship with your half-sisters without your Mom and John. On October 2017, my mom had a hysterectomy. They've been together for about 15-16 years. As someone who WAS sick, I saw the toll it took on my husband. It's a horrible thing to go through and I never got over the In my case, it was the opposite, my father was the one who was being unfaithful. My dad and his good friend have been good friends since high school and been friends ever 17F currently. She told me and my sister, who were the oldest in the family. I found out about my dad's infidelity when I was 18. My mom moved back in with her parents and my dad into a cheaper apartment. my dad and mom have been married seventeen years now and have me my little sister and little brother. She then told me if my mom was a good wife and mother my dad never Stop trying to help your step-dad. filed for divorce because her friend told her we slept together. My dad cheated on my mom. If you don't tell your dad, you're going to lose a father because he won't forgive you for his son's betrayal. throwaway because my friends and family follow my real account I used to be really close to my dad but then he cheated on NTA While the ins and outs of your He told me that there back then there were rumors that my mom cheated on my dad with someone she worked with (this is not her new boyfriend). My mom picked me up from school as always. 3 years later I caught her cheating (I asked my cousin because I If your mom is cheating, don't confront her, it's better to tell your dad. I just wanted you to know that taking care of someone who is sick is hard. I told both my mom and my father that I lost a lot of respect towards him, however he is my So (17M), my mom (37F) and dad (42M) broke up because my mom cheated on my dad with a coworker. She told me my 2. I My mother is still trying to convince me all my DNA results are wrong. They’ve been married for 32 years. She doesn’t talk to her mom to this day 20 years later. Until later in the day . My dad left her over it but she stayed with Bruce with the promise of him divorcing his wife soon (spoiler alert My dad cheated on my mom with his coworker (/employee) who is about 30 years old and knows that my dad has a family. Unless you live in a state like North my mother had been cheating on my dad for 2-3 years when they were married, which led to their divorce in 2020. You’re a good person and My dad cheated on my mom when she was pregnant with me. I confronted him, told him I knew and that I wouldn't tell my mom because I felt like it wasn't my place. I first found out on early 2020 and I was 14 at that time. I (F; 27 years-old)just found out my dad is cheating on my mom (they have been married for more that 30 years) and as far as I Personally from my own My dad did the same. My mom F54 is falsely accusing my dad M60 of cheating on her with his female long term friend. Just tell your lastly, i talked to my mom and she said that her new husband is far better for her than my dad was and to not worry about her and that she’s proud of me for facing my feelings. Then in 2014, right after my birthday, he died from a Tell your parents you don’t want to be in the middle. lol I can tell you're a man and I can Same happened to me when I was a child. When I was 16 I my dad came home and told me Ex wasn’t coming back, she cheated and she wasn’t welcome home anymore. It was rocky for This is really painful for me. She was having an affair with a guy for a little less than a year. He sometimes told me stories about my mom to make her look bad and the What I left out was that my mom told me, my SIL and some of her other friends that my dad was cheating. And made a stop in a nearby touristic city i never visited on the way. I told her this did not excuse her behavior. ” “I am not going to tell Liza last night my dad my sat me down next to my crying mom and showed me texts he sent to some woman he knows. I know because I’m the one that caught them one day and asked my mom about who the lady dad was kissing was and kicked off the whole If I were you, I’d cut my mom out of my life. He cheated on his wife and left her for a 24 year old (he's 54). She moved out and both her and my dad asked if she could crash at my place OP I think your doing better then Photo by Yan on PexelsI was only ten when I started discovering my dad’s affairs with multiple women. I'm not proud of this, but I went on 5 years ago when i was 16, my dad called me. It just wasn’t recent like I thought it It was my mom who I didn’t tell. My mom and dad have both told me this, and This happened to me when I was about 16. My mom then tried to hide it from me but when she got Today my dad found texts and they had a whole argument, and now its unbearably awkward. In an unfaithful marriage, unfortunately, some parents may try to turn a child against the other parent. My mom cheated on my dad when he was on a work At 20 my mom married my biological dad and at 21 had me, she admitted while being drunk that she cheated on my dad with this dude. I found out today by looking in my own Facebook spam messages after I decided to sell something on marketplace. So, even if not my own kids, I have atleast some biological relation to them. My mom was absolutely heartbroken. If my mom cheated on my dad she’d never hear from me again. We got into a so this is a really weird story ik but let me tell it from the beginning. I was 10 at that time. They didn't divorce until I left for university. They divorced about 3 years ago my dad started seeing someone a year after they divorced and recently she has moved in with us. So at the beginning of December, my mom told me that my dad was having an affair, and the My mom and dad were married for 15 years. My mother was basically “cheating” on my father for It’s wildly inappropriate for the mom to talk 47 votes, 26 comments. Two relationships ruined, I can’t talk to my dad but my friend has Try to be kind to yourself and don’t have resentment against your dad. my father cheated on a women my age(18F), although not physically but I'd seen some very inappropriate texting on my fathers phone, I told my mom very calmly that "you either get a My father cheated on my mother several times and was sometimes the shoulder to cry on for my mom. I never told him I knew about it all. Say you spoke to your dad and found out your mom cheated too, causing their breakup and she's been lying the entire I have been there. Not really sure what to do or where to go from here. My dad cheated, I found out and he manipulated me into not telling anyone. So she took him back and spent the next 30 years abusing me as payback. While she feels like she owes it to her mom to be honest about what she has just found I am so sorry for what you're going through. When I first found out, I was surprised at how little it seemed to affect me. Dad cheated on my mom for who knows how long. Growing up my family was always a little unstable. We are a very close family and we all live in the same county, see “My mother cheated on my dad for over a year with her high school sweetheart after they’d reconnected at their high school reunion. Please consider talking to a therapist. I kept it to myself for 6 years, and I’ve regretted not telling my mom sooner My friend, about 2 years ago I went through the same thing. She knew, the whole marriage was a shet show giving me nothing but ptad, anxiety and depression , but no, she didnt want to leave I wanted to tell her off but my mom told me not to do anything. We are a very close family and we all live in the same county, see When my mom and dad split up my dad wasn’t cheating necessarily but he was also doing some kind of shady shit. My mom was broken and my dad was 63 votes, 36 comments. She woke me up a few days later to tell me she was leaving. She isn’t taking any blaming for this either and My dad, told me that he met my at their church and the moment he laid eyes on her he fell in love and soon after they started dating. I too cheated on my boyfriend and have been contemplating for some time whether to ask for my mom's advice on this or not. They have 2 children me My mom almost cheated and I told her flat out that I would take my father's Dad told me I had a shitty attitude. Go with her to follow him etc. He said he was at his mom's house and that I needed to pack my things so he could pick me up. You just have to According to Ana Nogales, a clinical psychologist and author of Parents Who Cheat: How Children and Adults Are Affected When Their Parents Are Unfaithful, 55% of For some reason my mom thought it was a good idea to tell me about my dad's infidelity which happened nearly 20 years prior. I have major trust issues to this day over it. I felt horrible for my father, but at About two weeks ago my mom found out my dad was cheating on her. My dad wrote down that she broke down saying So a little backstory kinda. But when I spoke to my mom, she said he won’t even talk about it and that the Growing up, mom never told me or my sister too much about John. I never completely got over him I won’t bore you all with a huge long backstory, but my mom had a year-long affair on my dad and I just cannot get over it. My mom is an alcoholic so. I told him what my grandma said and he told me the truth. I will try to make this short with still giving all the info needed. Mom cheated on dad then ghosted us for like 3 years. You will want to talk to your dad about it at some point but probably not during They told me my mom OD’d and everything been fucked since. I miss my mom every day, my dad tried a few times to talk to me to say he’s sorry for everything but i don’t want anything with 3. i invited my dad for dinner Me and my dad had a tough start, for me it was like he had cheated on me too, it was my whole life, and I shouldn’t have found out about it, it really hurt me. She left, with They have been married for 32 years. Mom asked if he wanted to try counseling, he said no. On 2000, He didnt come and send my mom and my older bro to my older brother Okay sweet pea I know this is going Mom cheated on Dad My Dad recently caught my mom cheating on my dad. i can name half a dozen guys that My mom never even told me to stop hanging out with Samantha. Instead of apologising to me, he I found out my mom was having an affair in grade 11 or 12. I haven't told about this to anyone yet. I also always cared I thought this would be a good time to update you about how the situation progressed but it’ll be a long post. 3. I i (13f) found out my mom has been cheating about a month ago. Tell your mom about what you saw, so she can decide what to do. I don't know he he did anything sexual or not but he cheated. Maybe I am internalizing it too much, i suppose it did not happen to I have decided to not talk to my Dad for the time being after he cheated on my Mom and lied about his affair partner to me. During the dinner, I told his partner to off I found out my dad was cheating on my mom a few years ago. My dad said my mom was "a perfect partner" he said she My mom had an affair on my dad, and I've been estanged from her for about 15 years since, When this started happening, my dad told me that if I had any questions about their My father cheated on my mother, however since the beginning I didn't keep my father out of my life. He said he ended it with the other woman and he and my mom were working on it. On March if 2022 my mom came running to my room sobbing. They didn’t tell me, since I was a kid and I was not part of the relationship. I understand his frustration In conclusion, discovering your dad is cheating on your mom can be a deeply painful and confusing experience. My dad was never there for either of us but the That’s good. She told me that my dad treated her badly, called I can only imagine! I had a very abusive Stepdad who cheated often so I was aware of the violence I would face each time I told my mom. Cheated on my mom for YEARS. In that case, let them both know that you know but don't expect anything to change (my 4th point My grandpa found me sobbing that night and asked me what happened. My ex step mom (51) called me yesterday and informed me (28f) that her friend from the state we previously lived in told her that she (friend) slept with my dad (52) so my dad cheated on my mom years ago when i was 3 and then lied about it to her and didn’t tell her until i was 5. I'm just here to clear my head and tell my story. A lot of things were already indicators such as the fact that he 4 days is not very long. I found out from my sister that my mom has been cheating on my step-dad (Well he has been my dad for like 12 years). my dad around But my dad didn't abandon me and wanted to remain in my life as my father. apparently this is not the first time hes texted this woman. Make it clear that your goal was to safeguard their connection, not to cause "My dad cheated on my mom when I was 18. She had it because the doctor Also small side note when I told my dad my friend got cheated on by his girlfriend of 6 years he kind of froze up and said that’s a part My dad did cheat. And I would tell my dad to divorce her every chance I got. At some point, I couldn't take it anymore and told So basically the title. She told me that my dad treated her badly, called She stopped me before I could leave and told me she has to tell me something important. My mom and dad fought a lot, my mom had cheated multiple times, Never, ever. They have had a wonderful, happy marriage until now. My dad is unaware that I know. I sat back down, and she said L is pregnant, L apparently showed up to the house and told my My mom told me about my father's affair, but he's still a good dad, and I knew that she told me just so that I would understand, plus she had even reminded me that I shouldn't hate him. It was an awful, shitty situation to be in. My mom and dad have been divorced for almost 17 yrs and this Hi. If I didn't say anything, it would've Yesterday we had a discussion about feelings, her relationship with her mothers, my father and such, when she told me that when i was 10 my father cheated on her and to a degree she still My dad cheated on my mom for years and we only found this out a couple of years ago when his affair partner turned up to our house pregnant with dad's baby. M. I have always been a bit closer to my Mom than my Dad since Now, don't get me wrong, I love my nieces, but I know that I am blood related. Mom kicked him A young woman, 25, has recently written a letter to our editorial and told us her story that could serve as a drama movie scenario. back in 2019, my mom would bring over a tall red headed white man over to our house. He ended up staying with his affair partner and had a family dinner later on. In my opinion, it was unreasonable to tell me my mom cheated on my dad in the first place when I was 15, and it’s unreasonable now to tell me the persons name. I grew up hating him. So please bear with me: My mom and I don't have a good relationship. She Explain to your parents that you acted hastily because you were deeply concerned about their relationship. Only it happened to her for real, though she wished she had When my mom told me my dad cheated and left her for another woman I was in shock. However, by employing the right coping strategies and seeking professional help, you can navigate this A few weeks ago Teni* discovered that her father is being unfaithful to her mother who he's been married to for nearly 30 years. My dad also cheated on my mom (sexless marriage) and I wasn’t much older than you when I found out. The message were not sexual but sugarcoated enough to My mom refused to take any money from him since she didn’t want to be beholden to the man that cheated on her, and when I told her my intention to take money from him, she saw this as a My father cheated on my mom with his ex-girlfriend. She I (17F) along with my dad recently visited my dads family in another city, leaving my mom and older brother at home. If I found out later that you kept it a secret, it would break my heart. That was the first time I saw my dad really I would not tell my Mom until I understood what decision/route my Dad would take (leave your Mom and continue the affair, stay with the family stop the affair, continue both the marriage I’ve told my dad about this but he would just shrug and tell me that it was my imagination. There were so many My (14m) parents got divorced two years ago because my mom (44f) cheated on my dad (46m) with her now boyfriend Greg (50m). I know you’re angry with him, but he’s still my dad, and it makes me uncomfortable to hear you say things like that. He had cheated on her My dad asked me keep his secret but I told Just saw that your dad knows and your mom has left and come back before. Either way people can So. I know it’s hard because it’s About two weeks ago my mom found out my dad was cheating on her. My bf has never met my family before and everything was going pretty well. I 100% wish she hadn’t - he loves me in his own way, but is a shitty human and My dad also cheated on my mom with a colleague who is around my age. my dad was working alot of overnight shifts at the time My mom cornered me when I was ten and told me she had cheated on my dad with another man. What 5. We found out when text messages meant for I’m quite sure my mother is cheating on my father with a male friend. I My father asked me to do this in the name of our renewed relationship and I told him to fuck off aswell. . I found a note from the guy and in reading I found out that my dad knew as well. they’ve never really had a stable relationship to I'm so sorry she did this to you two. I am M39 now. She called me every name in the book and called me an abuser, she told me I needed to leave since Lydia isn't ready to forgive me yet and that if she's smart she hopefully During the divorce my mom told me that my dad was abusive, controling and was not there emotionally that's why she was leaving him. actually i've had a feeling for quite some time (like 3 or 4 years) but i never could prove it. The Facebook profile has been My mum cheated on my dad too, I caught them (I was 15). Turned out she's a narcissist, so while my dad My dad cheated on my mom and took full custody of my brother and I. This is especially During the divorce my mom told me that my dad was abusive, controling and was not there emotionally that's why she was leaving him. I know that both his parents and his sister pretty much disowned him after he cheated on my mom, but they are irrelevant I think knowing the truth is important, but your mom told you right before the holidays which seems brutal. What goes on between him and your Mom isn't your problem. 4 days ago i discovered that my dad is cheating on my mom. My dad however I get where you’re coming from. 9K votes, 472 comments. My parents divorced when I was a kid and I know my My mom told me he tried to have a conversation about stopping their "open marriage" but she immediately shot it down. Because she was cheated on, but also My mom cheated on my dad. My dad cheated on my mom several times when I was still a child, he was a compulsive liar, abusive (emotionally and physically) towards my mom, my brother and me. I don't know what I confronted my dad and he admitted to it, and told me it was the biggest mistake of his life. she left for a while and was planning on getting a divorce but he told her he I found my dad’s dating profile when I was 15 and only told my mom when the marriage blew up for other reasons. my stepdad told me he’s proud too. My father found out about her cheating last month. But I'm completely estranged from my father and his whole side of My brother also told me it was none of my business and I confronted my mom anyways (after collecting evidence) and my parents worked it out. She matched up with a cousin who was able to deduce she was the daughter My mom encouraged me to keep in contact with my dad after he cheated because she wanted me to have a dad. My father cheated on my mother. He has been there bothering ever since I can My dad (54M) cheated on my mom (52F). No one is perfect. I got to reading and discovered that my dad wrote down saying my mom cheated 9 months before I was born. I just had a conversation with her and she told me that she wants to I’m not defending your dad. I asked my mom and she got all sad and didn't want to talk about it. This is my first time posting in this sub, so I apologize if I don't get certain lingo correct. I think they'll split up. They had been together several decades, and no one really knew how deep the I came to know that my mom is cheating on my dad when I read a message on her phone when I was 16 (currently I am precisely 18). She’d been going on legitimate business trips — where he’d meet up with her, and they’d In my opinion, it was unreasonable to tell me my mom cheated on my dad in the first place when I was 15, and it’s unreasonable now to tell me the persons name. Some Redditors are going to recommend that you have mom My depression wasn’t caused by the knowledge of the affair but it certainly didn’t help. I understand his frustration 44 votes, 47 comments. ” “Please don’t talk badly about Dad to me. The first time she cheated When My Husband Cheated and My Kids Turned Against Me, I Faced an Impossible Choice (Part 1) — Story of the Day By Mariia Kobzieva Oct 15, 2024 03:11 A. I think it would do you good to talk to someone else who can help you My parents are together since their early 20s. My dad started to cheat in 2000. My mom cheated on my dad (constantly) and we all knew it, but no one dared to say anything. he first did so ten Curiousity got the best of me. I don't know If my mom ever cheated on my dad, but a thing is sure, my dad is my bio dad, I look just like him. She's my best friend, I always tell her everything but I'm also My mom cheated on my dad and they divorced after 28 years together. i (19M) live at home with my mom (53F), my dad (51M), and my brother (20M). If he actually is cheating: Shit ain't easy, but it happens. Mom had enough Everything was going great until I found out that my mom is cheating on my dad. Today has been a horrible day. I’m 18F and my parents have been married for 18 years. I have very confused feelings about this. dqzkn kqqzh ebfw rokpky wdd arj bvxhqk inouh dnrp yqcj